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Nov 5, 2012

This Is Personal! (Part 1)

Oftentimes, we think we can protect ourselves and our family members from all hurt, harm and danger in life.  Maybe if we have enough education, money, insurance, a good paying job and all that that affords us – we will be safe. Perhaps we live in a “nice” neighborhood, attend the “right” church or can afford to send out children to private school.  Or maybe we are simply a “normal” middle class family living our lives, day by day with little or no thought about complications which may lie ahead because we are busy living for today.

Caboose's 21st Birthday Celebration

My Firstborn, Caboose and Baby Girl

As a wife and mother of over 27 years, I’ve tried to live a life of sharing and caring.  Especially before my children in order to impart the same spirit by example.  Always in search of interesting and meaningful family outings and with Early Voting approaching in our state, I thought it would be great on the first day to have a “Take Your Family To VOTE Day!” With three young adult children and two busy parents, this would prove to be more like herding cats than a let’s hold hands and GO VOTE Kumbaya photo-op moment.

Sunday, October 21st – As I sought to arrange this, My Baby Girl said, “I want to wait to until after the last Presidential Debate so I can hear the candidates closing points.”   At first I felt rebuffed because I had planned this for a couple of weeks.  But as I considered her position, I had to be proud of the young woman we had raised – an independent thinker and decision maker!  So we would wait until after the debate.  When I shared this with My Caboose, to my utter shock, he announced, “I’m not sure I’m even going to VOTE.  It’s not important to me and my life right now.  I don’t think either one of them can make a difference right now.  My friends and I are young and we don’t want to think about things like this!”  I tried to calmly explain what I thought were the important points of voting both from a historical perspective as well as for his generation’s future.  This would be his first time to VOTE in a Presidential Election.

The idea of a child of mine deciding not to VOTE was almost too much for me to bear.  I could feel his eyes glaze over with the lack of interest that is so common place with the youth of today as I stressed what our elders had gone through for that right.  I decided to retire to the garage and busy myself with making soap and watering my garden to calm my spirit.  In the back of my mind, I kept think about his comments, my own political leanings and the pending results of My Baby Girls needle biopsy a few days earlier.  I didn’t raise the issue again as we shared the delicious cake I had spent all day making.

Monday, October 22 – My day was planned: Prayer Altar call at 4:00 a.m. (  Walk three miles.  Go by a school to pick-up a raffle gift I won over the weekend.  Stop by the auto dealership to pay for an extended warranty (yes, I finally gave up the keys to The Big Red Truck).  Pick up display trays for my Rbellah Handcrafted Aromatherapy Soaps (after nearly a year, they were finally going to be available at my local Whole Foods Market).  Make more soap, plant my Fall Garden ( I was already weeks behind), make Chow Chow, cook dinner, etc. etc, etc.

All of those plans came to a screeching halt at 9:06 a.m. as I headed down the driveway when My Baby Girl called with the results of the biopsy.  Our fears were confirmed: she has Cancer!  Forgetting about “my plans” all I wanted to do was to get to my child. Never mind that she is 25 and we have had our share and probably other some other people’s share of ups and downs – I was ready to put the pedal to the metal in my new to me car and outrun any police in pursuit to get to her with open arms.  Being my child, she ordered me not to come to her office . . . she was coming home to see me face to face.

To be continued . . .

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  • aedwards

    Love it Ms. Rhonda. keep doing what you do. You are an inspiration to many!

    • Thanks Anisa. God has been gracious these past eight months – as He always is. I am forever grateful for the work He continues to do in my life and the Splash Effect it has on others. Love you!

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